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March 19, 2013

This author's tantric awakening has scared her off sex

A fascinating story of an author working on a book about tantra and meditation and how they relate to sex and S&M (she also wrote THE ETHICAL SLUT, which is a delightful book about communication in relationships masquerading as a handbook to polyamory). She's a scientist at heart, not into the woo woo spirituality and approaches the tantra with a skeptic's frame. But while attending a beginner's tantra workshop she had a "kundalini awakening" or a full body orgasm that basically permanently rewired how her brain deals with sex. And not in a good way. My tantric “awakening” turned me off sex - Salon.com
For the last exercise, on a balmy Saturday night, we rejoined the partners we came to the class with — in my case, Dossie. There was nothing special about this particular exercise. We were in yabyum — the tantra position where you sit in each other’s laps with your legs wrapped around one another and your bodies lined up heart-to-heart, eye-to-eye — and we were breathing and undulating our hips. No special visualization or verbalization instructions, no particular shoulds or shouldn’ts. And then, whatever was inside me decided to come out. I began to scream, and I kept screaming. I tipped over backward, arched up off the floor, borne only by the crown of my head and the soles of my feet (with Dossie, caught, straddling me in midair). I was utterly out of control, my body wracked with wave after wave of energy. It was like grabbing a live wire — slower, deeper, more systematic, but with the same inescapability and the same terror. And it was the deepest ecstasy I’ve ever felt, like orgasm times a hundred, from the tips of my hair to the ends of my toenails. I couldn’t remember how to stop. I thought I might die. It actually lasted, I’m told, about a minute and a half, but a minute and a half is a very long time to scream at the top of one’s lungs without pause except to suck in more breath, or to lift one’s own 200-pound weight and one’s partner’s 175-pound weight on one’s feet and head. When it was over, I laughed softly in wonder. And then, with no transition, I began to cry, hard. I cried for a long, long time. . . .

March 03, 2013

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February 17, 2013

A Study of 10,000 Porn Stars

The average woman who is a porn actress is 5’5″ and weighs 117lbs and has B-cup breasts and is a white brunette. There's some interesting stuff here about race, too. Deep Inside - A Study of 10,000 Porn Stars | Jon Millward - Blog
The average male and female performer are the same height as the average American man and woman: 5’10″ and 5’5″ respectively.2 However, porn stars are quite a bit lighter. At 117 lbs, the average female performer is a considerable 48 lbs under the national average for women, and the average male, at 167.5 lbs, weighs 27 lbs less than the national average for men. So, just how were these porn stars’ weights determined when they were typed, probably with one hand, into the database? IAFD’s data is culled from various sources, including performers’ modelling profiles and the information they give during interviews in the porn films themselves.3 So presumably at some point the heaviest woman in my sample, who weighs 719 lbs (about the same as two giant pandas),4 and the lightest woman, who weighs 10 times less, at 74 lbs (the same as the average American 10-year-old girl)5, mentioned their weights, and an owl-eared fan heard them and rushed to the database to pop them in. I thought that maybe if the women are overestimating how light they are, they might also be a bit too generous when reporting their measurements. It turns out they probably aren’t though, because the most common bra size for a female porn star is a surprisingly handleable 34B. Not double-D, not even a D. Double-D actually came in 4th, behind B, C and D. The most common set of measurements for the women was 34–24-34. . . . Apart from differences in the average heights and weights of performers, race seemed to make pretty much no difference to any of the other averaged stats. For instance, the data shows that the average age of a woman when she gets into porn is 22 years old—and it has been for the last 40 years—and that’s the case for all women, regardless of race. Men have been progressively getting into the business at a younger age, though: in the 1970s their average debut age was 29, but now it’s 24. Porn stars of both genders have also been progressively retiring earlier: in the ‘70s, men stayed in porn for an average of twelve years, and women for nine. Now men on average quit after four years, and women after three.