This is a beautiful piece about the awful way people react to a person who works in porn.
What I Want to Know Is Why You Hate Porn Stars by Conner Habib - Seattle Features - The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper
It can't be factual. The reason you hate us, I mean. It's fine, not all emotions have to be based on facts. We're human beings, after all. I just wanted to make sure you knew it couldn't be factual.
You might think the thing that upsets you about us is that we're ruining society. And there are studies. You like to start sentences with the phrase, Studies show that...
But listen. The facts? You're going to have a hard time with them.
Every in-depth study that looks at how porn affects people ends up either supporting porn or rendering it neutral. Now, I know, I know, you're going to say, "But what about THIS one?" and point to a study I've never heard of. It'll say that porn is somehow rearranging our neural pathways or that such-and-such part of the brain lights up when we watch porn. But those studies are routinely debunked. Did you know that most of those anti-porn neuroscience studies don't have much evidence to back them up? Or that they have leap-of-faith conclusions? Don't take my word for it. Just look it up. Not right now? You want to keep reading? Well, all right.
So then you bring up the studies that say porn leads to sexual abuse. There actually aren't many of those, and the ones that exist have also been debunked. Did you know that sexual violence is more likely to occur in places that have sexually repressed atmospheres—including the banning of pornography? And did you know that there's no sociological data that clearly links pornography to sexual violence? Don't take my word for it. Just look it up.
Not right now? Okay, okay.
But sometime, just take an hour—or even a half hour—and investigate that.
You know what? Fuck it. Ten minutes. Just 10 minutes.