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August 04, 2012

On creepiness; or, life under the male gaze

On creepiness. - untitld
A word on “creepy”: I know it gets thrown around a lot without necessarily being explained, so I’ll take a crack at it. “Creepy” doesn’t have to be a one-on-one thing, or even an attraction thing. People can notice it even without an overt sexual aspect. I like to think of it as a Spidey sense women develop under duress. When you’re female, unwelcome male attention kicks in when you’re YOUNG, with no power to do anything about it. Sure, you could slug a classmate, maybe, but not six of them, or the grown men who follow you down the street in their cars trying to get you to come with them, or the mob of boys on bikes who chase you in a pack every time they see you, or the godfather who leers and says inappropriate stuff even with other people in the room, or the guys who scream “Cow!” out the car at you because they can see your (skinny, even!) midriff in the cool new shirt you cut up, or or or … and that’s just stuff that happened to me in the year I was 12. It starts young (no, really, young) and doesn’t go away. We don’t get to fight back, either. When we complain, we’re told the same things: “It means he likes you. You should be flattered!” “Oh, that’s not that bad.” “You should’ve known better than to wear that.” “Well, walk a different way next time.” “just ignore him.” The only way we’re given to deal with it is avoiding trouble, so we get really good at picking up on subtext. Like, REALLY good. “It’s your job to predict the future and avoid it” good. Like, “your life actually depends on it” good. So we learn to see the world through that head-up display from “Predator.” We don’t get the luxury of not noticing stuff. . . .

July 31, 2012

Wired columnist begs nerds to go back in the closet, dress like grown-ups

She couches it in "aren't spies just like really cool?" framing, but it's obvious what she's saying. NERDS PLEASE STOP ACTING LIKE NERDS! If only she could tell the rest of Wired to get on that message. Spycraft for Nerds: Brainy Tips for Winning at Life | Underwire | Wired.com
The typically outre behavior of the nerd won’t get us killed, but it puts us at a tactical disadvantage. We don’t have to fly a geek flag just for the sake of pride (or habit). We can, in fact, be stealthier, fly casually, and be more successful at—well, at whatever. Listen: Everybody sees James Bond coming, but it’s John le Carr�’s understated spymaster, George Smiley, who you really have to watch out for. You have goals. You want to excel socially or at work. You want to break out of your rut. You are a geek in a still-straight world. So you might as well learn the lessons of espionage. “Your goal is to be the gray man,” says Clinton Emerson, a former Navy SEAL and trainer for the CIA and NSA who now works at the special-ops site SOFREP. “Pull up your pants. Get a Timex and penny loafers. Changing the design of what you carry changes the design of who you are. Don’t give observers any information.” Yes, I know, the Soylent Corporation T-shirt and Lego Yoda on your keychain are all signifiers of your chosen group status. But they also give a tactical advantage to an observer who will pigeonhole you as a nerd. Why let them? Take the social high ground by preserving a little mystery. . . .

An animated GIF guide to the women's gymnastics competition

I really appreciate someone with knowledge putting this all into context for me. Especially with the GIFs illustrating her points. Why Jordyn Wieber Didn't Make It: A GIF Guide - Global - The Atlantic Wire